So you’re breaking up at last, are you?

You can call me One Man.

This site is for Irish men who are going through a separation or a divorce.

There’s no gender equality here: I’m on the side of men.

Many accusations will be made about you. People will try to stain your character.

Your ex-partner will try to persuade you that you are at fault for everything that went wrong.

You’ll be told that, as a man, you are emotionally stunted and that women are better than you because they’re more in touch with their feelings.

After a while, you’ll come to believe all these things about yourself.

In short, you’ll be made to feel like a useless piece of shit, and it will all be designed to make you surrender as quickly as possible.

Don’t give in to this.

You’re not the only one to have had this experience. As time goes by, I’ll be offering you advice and support on how to get through this awful time in your life. The advice will be about practical issues such as money and property. I’ll also help you with the terrible emotional damage this experience is inflicting on you.

I hope this site will help you to see things more clearly and help you to emerge on the far side feeling better about yourself, in a good relationship with your kids, if you have kids. You’ll also have a roof over your head instead of living in some rented shit-hole for the rest of your life.

I’m doing this because I was one of the lucky ones who managed to negotiate a good settlement with my ex-wife. I’m an equal in every way regarding the upbringing of the kids. I have a great relationship with my kids and a good working relationship with my former wife, though it wasn’t always like that.

As we move along, I’ll tell you some of my personal experiences, but I won’t go into too much detail because I don’t want to reveal my identity.

I’ll post an article once a week, and if there’s anything in particular you’d like me to talk about, just ask.

So here’s the start: what things concern you most about your relationship break-up?